He may be a mohawk guy OR return of the 'hawk

The boy never fails to amaze. nearly two years later, he has decided (on his own, yet again) to let the mohawk return to his head. We have spent the last 7 or 8 months arguing about combing, and not combing or washing and not washing his hair. I took almost 3 hours and twisted ALL of his hair to have him tell me he didn't like it (and I had to wash it out). I don't think it had ever been that long before. And even though he'd been telling the barber (loving called "Barber" by the boy) "only the edges, please" for the last couple of visits, he decided on his way (with his father, of course) that he wanted a mohawk again. I got a very thoughtful text message from his dad-- "Boy wants mohawk. Thoughts?" I responded "His head, his choice" (very nice of me, wouldn't you say?). I also stopped by the shop to check and make sure it was his decision and he hadn't been coerced. (I did mention that his father was taking him, right?!)
My almost 4.5 year old told me "Mommy, don't worry, its just hair" and with that, I went to my meeting. The first trial that night didn't work. Something about Barber appearing as if he has something else to do that night, but just as promised, Daddy took the boy (who's name is king) to the shop and got it all fixed. And he was happy.

Until the owner of his school apparently (and only by his accounts right now) said something unfavorable about his self-expression. We've both been trying to instill much more than manners and basic education, we've been trying to give him a sense of self that makes him okay with being different. I don't always think "old school" teachers get that. Like he said, "its just hair" and a wonderful way for him to express himself.
So, I found myself a little bothered, and had I been the one dropping off and picking up, I might've found some time to talk to someone about it. I kept asking the Dad, but he apparently thought it best not to say anything to anyone.
And, so, today...in the midst of the craziness of the winter holy days (for some) and my family trip out of the country (I'll explain that LATER), my child starts doubting whether his hair is okay and good...and I am all worked up again.
I need to go meditate for a few minutes to get some clarity before I get upset again.
And its funny that I haven't blogged in forever HERE, but decided to today...I'll be back.
be still and know I
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